Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Being an imperfect activist sucks

I am deeply committed to working for justice in an authentic and charitable way. This means I am going to fuck shit up a lot in the eyes of other people.

If speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we have, why do I feel like lately my truth isn’t good enough?

If it is important for women not to support each other and not play mean girls on the playground, why do I feel like I am taking the punches for saying how I feel in an authentic and intentional way?

When I was getting divorced from my ex-wife my therapist advised me not to react to anything she said for at least 24 hours. This was excellent advice and I try to honor that idea in all things in my life…sometimes I don’t do that so well, especially when it comes to social media, but I am ALWAYS intentional and vulnerable in my reactions to things that light my activist flame.

My struggle this week is real for me. I am hurt.

My coach said to me, “we don’t have to be perfect people to create change.” I am running with this one. I don’t have to be perfect. I am ok being an imperfect activist, it doesn’t make me a bad person, it makes me a human being.

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Other people’s emotions are their business. I am okay allowing other people to be wrong about me. The louder I get, the more this will happen.

Is it wrong for me to expect that our next Commander in Chief will have some sort of political experience? Maybe. But as a voting member of this democracy I get to hold that belief as my truth.

Is it wrong for me to wear a pink pussy hat? Maybe. But as a woman, other feminists don’t get to police what I wear. I believe the policing of how women express themselves through clothing choices is a tool the patriarchy uses to marginalize us.

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Is my timing going to be off? Yes.
Am I going to say something that offends people? Likely.
If I do those things from a space of love and vulnerability then I think that is okay.

Love is power. Vulnerability is power. Fierce expression of truth is power.

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It’s Friday, fuck shit up y’all,
Dr. Melissa Bird

If you are working towards justice in your community, join me at Bird Girl Industries.

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