Hello loves, I woke up this morning and wanted to write you a letter about advocacy. What is advocacy all about anyway? Why should we even do it? What does it matter? And where in the crap do we find daily motivation to keep going in 2018? Merriam-Webster defines mayhem as, “willful, permanent, crippling mutilation”….
Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Othering women is so 2018 and I wish I had a better title for this blog
Back in 2014 I published an article called “Social Justice Advocacy in the Belly of the Beast”. In that article I talked about how the OTHERING of women’s bodies allows lawmakers to pass legislation that, “force a woman to remain pregnant in order to keep her position clear in society, stripping her of her autonomy…
Monday Mayhem – Hold the excuses
I don’t have time. I don’t have the answers. I don’t have the education. I don’t have the training. I don’t know the definition. No one will believe me. No one will take me seriously. I am too young. I am too old. Someone else is already doing that, I am just so sure. People…
Eff Sh*t Up Friday – I desire a world…
I desire a world where women have choice. I desire a world where women are safe to tell people in power their desires. I desire a world where women are able to be a voice for those who don’t have one. I desire a world where women can be free to do whatever they want…
Monday Mayhem – Infertility, heartbreak, revolution
On August 16, 2010 my wife of 6+ years left me 5 hours after I had been inseminated. I was DEVASTATED. I crumpled into the fetal position on the kitchen floor and didn’t move for 3 days. While I was down there I prayed in earnest for the first time in my life. Dear God,…
Monday Mayhem on a Tuesday – Putting the “B” back in LGBTQ
Sexuality is not a choice. It is the way we are born. I am a bisexual woman who is married to a man who at one point identified as a lesbian and now mostly identifies as queer. Boy that was a mouthful. Yep…I put the “B” back in LGBT and I can’t believe that I…
Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Balance is crap
I just did an AMAZING workshop in Holyoke, MA called Fanning the Flames! It is a Bird Girl Industries special event to help women tap into their passion to make a difference in their OWN communities! What I love about these workshops is that I get to go into places all over the country and…
Monday Mayhem – Sometimes you’ve gotta encourage yourself
Holy crap…advocacy is hard. What happens when you speak out against the status quo isn’t pretty. Especially if you are a woman. I mean…look at what the right wing is doing to Emma Gonzalez for speaking out against gun violence. Her male counterparts aren’t getting nearly the amount of grief that she is. Engaging in…
Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Justice
I feel greedy. I feel covetous. I feel hungry. I desire equality. I desire change. I desire collaboration. I feel passionate. I feel fury. I feel obsessive. I crave a voice. I crave a choice. I crave acknowledgement. I do not want women to be hung for their decisions like this man does. I do…
Monday Mayhem: Out of the mouths of babes
I have been getting some profound messages a lot lately: It is not the first step you take, but the next step you take that gets you where you are going. The brick walls aren’t meant to make you give up, they are meant to make you realize how bad you want something. Whatever it…
Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Gun Reform: A Conversation with my Teenager
My 16 year old daughter Katelynn and I just did a FB live together about her #MarchForOurLives walkout this week. It was amazing to hear her thoughts about gun reform because we had never discussed it before. She has some great wisdom that she wants to share with all of you: Me: Do you think…
Monday Mayhem – If all else fails mom says the water in the back of the toilet is clean
Last week I was giving a lecture about “toxic debt” and during the Q&A discussion a member of the audience wondered why we weren’t talking about the idea of “living within your means”. Let me tell you, my inside voice was like, “For reals? After all the data I just presented this is where we…