Monday Mayhem – March for our Lives

This morning a friend of mine posted this poem on Instagram: This poem resonated with me so deeply for a number of reasons. One is that I am seeing a whole lotta policing of peoples actions in activism and that makes me worried for the future of all sorts of movements. We are human beings…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Gun Reform Y’all

I am a gun owner. I am not ok with what is happening in America. Something has to give. This month my 7 year old son came home terrified about getting shot at school because he had just gone through an “active shooter drill” in his classroom. I didn’t know what to say, comparing it…

Monday Mayhem – Disrupting Christianity

I grew up Mormonish (LDS lite) in Utah. My relationship with God and Christianity was complicated to say the least. As a bisexual (sometimes lesbian, always queer) woman I hated religion and what religion stood for. To me it was hateful and biased. To me it held no space for growth and love. And so…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – 2 Secrets about me

Secret #1 – I used to be terrified of public speaking. When I was in my speech and debate class I would literally throw up before having to get up in front of my little class of 15-20 students. It was silly. I had grown up with these people. We knew each other well. My…

Monday Mayhem – Burn the Patriarchy DOWN!

Yesterday I got this kick ass message from my friend where she said: “This was the anger roiling in me this morning. While the snow came down, the fire in me got hotter. It’s time to let the motherfuckers burn. I love you so much for how you inspire me and so many others. You’re…

HIV, Lube, Sex and Effing Sh*t Up on Friday

Yesterday we talked about the social construction of HIV in my social justice class. I showed my class videos about gay cancer, Ryan White, and the AIDS Quilt. Only a few of my students knew anything about the devastating history of HIV. None of them realized it took a straight, white, Christian boy from middle…

Monday Mayhem – Tell Women Nice Things

Last week I had 2 different people say nice things to me within the span of 30 minutes. One friend texted me to say, “so fucking proud of you”. The other friend texted that I was his, “friend warrior queen”. The joy I felt in that moment was so GIANT in my heart that it…

Monday Mayhem – Roe v. Wade is 45 y’all

Today is the 45th anniversary of Roe v. Wade. The decision that rocked a nation and gave women the right to make medical decisions that have saved their lives for 45 years. The decision that came a few years after Griswold v. Connecticut gave women the right to birth control without their husbands consent. Decisions…

Corvallis Still We Rise Women’s March

I was so blessed and honored to speak at the Corvallis Women’s March today in Corvallis, Oregon. The organizers SLAYED the event! Here is a video of my speech along with the transcript so you can follow my words! Have a kick ass weekend y’all! Cheers, Dr. Bird   Dr. Melissa Bird speech 1/20/18: A…

Roadblocks, justice, and finding your calling – Monday Mayhem

When we engage in advocacy and speak our truth, sometimes we hit a major roadblock. Mine is my “good girl”. She is an expert at saying, “shhhhhh, be quiet, sit down and shut up before someone sees you.” Feeding into this mindset can stop us from taking action. When women engage in advocacy and speak…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Being an imperfect activist sucks

I am deeply committed to working for justice in an authentic and charitable way. This means I am going to fuck shit up a lot in the eyes of other people. If speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we have, why do I feel like lately my truth isn’t good enough? If it…