Monday Mayhem – Mutilating the Patriarchy

Hello loves, I woke up this morning and wanted to write you a letter about advocacy. What is advocacy all about anyway? Why should we even do it? What does it matter? And where in the crap do we find daily motivation to keep going in 2018? Merriam-Webster defines mayhem as, “willful, permanent, crippling mutilation”….

Monday Mayhem – Hold the excuses

I don’t have time. I don’t have the answers. I don’t have the education. I don’t have the training. I don’t know the definition. No one will believe me. No one will take me seriously. I am too young. I am too old. Someone else is already doing that, I am just so sure. People…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Balance is crap

I just did an AMAZING workshop in Holyoke, MA called Fanning the Flames! It is a Bird Girl Industries special event to help women tap into their passion to make a difference in their OWN communities! What I love about these workshops is that I get to go into places all over the country and…

Monday Mayhem – Sometimes you’ve gotta encourage yourself

Holy crap…advocacy is hard. What happens when you speak out against the status quo isn’t pretty. Especially if you are a woman. I mean…look at what the right wing is doing to Emma Gonzalez for speaking out against gun violence. Her male counterparts aren’t getting nearly the amount of grief that she is. Engaging in…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – My Struggle as a Stepmother

It is a compulsion. A calling. A drive. The need to change the world for the better. The impulse to improve the community for everyone. It thrums through the blood in my veins. It resonates down deep into the tenor of my soul. I have never not heard the siren song of the call for…

Roadblocks, justice, and finding your calling – Monday Mayhem

When we engage in advocacy and speak our truth, sometimes we hit a major roadblock. Mine is my “good girl”. She is an expert at saying, “shhhhhh, be quiet, sit down and shut up before someone sees you.” Feeding into this mindset can stop us from taking action. When women engage in advocacy and speak…

10 Things I Wouldn’t Have Done if I Stayed Afraid of CRITICISM!

10. Built a BOMB ASS following online! That has led to connections with: Magical Feminists Kick Ass Academics Gorgeous friendships Glorious politicians 9. Pursued and obtained a PhD! I had mediocre grades, nearly failed statistics, and was told that my work was irrelevant. 8. Gone to a therapist! I was going through post-divorce insanity back…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Gratitude for the Activists

I am grateful for activists. I receive lots of really incredible emails on a pretty regular basis. This week I received some remarkable messages that I think are pretty great. One was from a student of mine who read the chapter about “substance use” in our textbook and took exception with the language used. He…