Absolutely Everything is Progress

I don’t know about you, but I was brought up thinking that I needed to have a really clear idea of my plan before I made any choices about my career or relationships. That old school mentality has never really served me well. I mean…I do not have a detailed map about where my life…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Are you choking on your manners?

I grew up with a grandma who was obsessed with Emily Post. Manners ruled everything in her house. She was old school with a side of feminism mixed in. We did not mess around with swearing (that never caught on), napkins on our lap (I nearly didn’t go on a 2nd date with my husband…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Pro choice/Anti abortion shame

Fundamentally the pro choice/anti abortion movement cannot survive without women. It’s survival is built on the foundational premise that it is critical to shame each other and our choices as women. Now – I know this is troubling. When I shared this idea with my husband he said, “Whooo you are gonna piss some women…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – The revolution is within you

This week I walked in three different labyrinths. This is what I wrote after my walks. The revolution is within you. The calling is within you. The magnificent presence of the divine feminine is within you. You are prepared to conceive of your greatest life. This will be a challenge but I stand here waiting,…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Say exactly what you think

Kids very often say exactly what they think. They have no filter. When they see injustice they don’t think, “well that is awful but I can’t do anything.” They think, “Wow, that is gross, I want to fix that. I wonder what I can do to fix that.” In 2012, I took my daughter to…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – I love and cherish you my friend…

Yesterday I received a surprise package in the mail. There was a note inside that said, “I love and cherish you my friend. Don’t you ever forget that the worlds needs you. Never, ever forget.” Boy howdy did I need those words. I have been doing some scary stuff lately, putting myself out there for…

Monday Mayhem – Look up at the sky

When I was a little girl I would lay on the grass and gaze up at the sky and wonder if anyone could see me down here. I would watch the clouds move and wonder where they were racing off to so fast. Those moments were an escape from the chaos of my life. My…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Misogyny Says

Misogyny says you are unworthy of investing in yourself and if you do you are selfish. Misogyny says if you spend money helping yourself grow and expand and be visible then you are problematic. Misogyny says don’t ask for help, get your shit together woman, no one wants to help you succeed in making your…

Monday Mayhem – Giving up fear for Lent

Giving up fear for Lent has meant facing some of my greatest fears: I had ants take over my desk and I am terrified of ants. Jim’s ex wife took him to court again last week and we always navigate fear around that. Not having the money to travel where I need to get to…

Monday Mayhem – This is not your grandmothers revolution

A revolution begins with one person doing one thing. We think of a revolution as a monumental event — the tea party, civil rights, women’s rights. Events of such great magnitude they forever change how people live their lives. But, that is just the end result. The crash of a wave where it all comes…