Monday Mayhem – Giving up fear for Lent

Giving up fear for Lent has meant facing some of my greatest fears: I had ants take over my desk and I am terrified of ants. Jim’s ex wife took him to court again last week and we always navigate fear around that. Not having the money to travel where I need to get to…

Monday Mayhem – Anger…again…

What if anger didn’t lead to violence? What if anger didn’t lead to violence perpetrated by ourselves against our own bodies or other women’s bodies?   What if we feminized anger? What if anger… …led to passion… …led to action? What if we acted out of a space of passionate anger? We have to forgive…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – 2 Secrets about me

Secret #1 – I used to be terrified of public speaking. When I was in my speech and debate class I would literally throw up before having to get up in front of my little class of 15-20 students. It was silly. I had grown up with these people. We knew each other well. My…

10 Things I Wouldn’t Have Done if I Stayed Afraid of CRITICISM!

10. Built a BOMB ASS following online! That has led to connections with: Magical Feminists Kick Ass Academics Gorgeous friendships Glorious politicians 9. Pursued and obtained a PhD! I had mediocre grades, nearly failed statistics, and was told that my work was irrelevant. 8. Gone to a therapist! I was going through post-divorce insanity back…

White Supremacy and Speaking Out

The events in Charlottesville, VA 10 days ago smacked me in the face and left me paralyzed. White supremacy is is NOT OK. It makes me feel gaggy in my throat with anger. It makes me damn mad. I know I am not alone in that feeling. I know that there are more of us…

Rip Your Chest Open and Fillet your Soul

I am finished. Done. It is over. One year of a PhD program under my belt. One more year of raising three beautiful children under my belt. One more year of focusing on loving my other half under my belt. One more year of consciously embracing my BADASS self under my belt. I am in…