Monday Mayhem – Stop running from yourself

Have you noticed we are always trying to escape? But what are we trying to escape from? Our birthright? Our calling? Our purpose? How many times have we been told who we are isn’t appropriate or good or acceptable? To whose standards? By whose definition? Who makes the rules now is not who has always…

Monday Mayhem – Facilitating Joy While Speaking Truth to Power

On Friday and Saturday, I co-facilitated a workshop with a local pastor and folks from the Department of Public Health and the Department of Human Services. The topic was homelessness in our town of Corvallis. This is the first time that I have heard this group of people laugh together, usually they are yelling at…

Monday Mayhem – Anger…again…

What if anger didn’t lead to violence? What if anger didn’t lead to violence perpetrated by ourselves against our own bodies or other women’s bodies?   What if we feminized anger? What if anger… …led to passion… …led to action? What if we acted out of a space of passionate anger? We have to forgive…

Monday Mayhem – Hold the excuses

I don’t have time. I don’t have the answers. I don’t have the education. I don’t have the training. I don’t know the definition. No one will believe me. No one will take me seriously. I am too young. I am too old. Someone else is already doing that, I am just so sure. People…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – I desire a world…

I desire a world where women have choice. I desire a world where women are safe to tell people in power their desires. I desire a world where women are able to be a voice for those who don’t have one. I desire a world where women can be free to do whatever they want…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Balance is crap

I just did an AMAZING workshop in Holyoke, MA called Fanning the Flames! It is a Bird Girl Industries special event to help women tap into their passion to make a difference in their OWN communities! What I love about these workshops is that I get to go into places all over the country and…

Monday Mayhem – Sometimes you’ve gotta encourage yourself

Holy crap…advocacy is hard. What happens when you speak out against the status quo isn’t pretty. Especially if you are a woman. I mean…look at what the right wing is doing to Emma Gonzalez for speaking out against gun violence. Her male counterparts aren’t getting nearly the amount of grief that she is. Engaging in…

Monday Mayhem – Disrupting Christianity

I grew up Mormonish (LDS lite) in Utah. My relationship with God and Christianity was complicated to say the least. As a bisexual (sometimes lesbian, always queer) woman I hated religion and what religion stood for. To me it was hateful and biased. To me it held no space for growth and love. And so…

Eff Sh*t Up – Not Ready to Make Nice

Ohhhh y’all, 2017 is proving to be the year that the women stopped giving all the fucks. This weeks elections turned out to be a real doosey and proved the #resistance is alive and well, and it has NOTHING to do with old white guys and the status quo. Let’s just talk about this for…

What will your bench say?

A few days ago I was hiking with my husband and we came across a bench in memory of Sylvia and Irving Silver “who lived life with a passion for justice”. This got me thinking, what would my bench say? I asked my husband, “what do you think our bench would say?” He responded, “I…