Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Poem for Graceful Revolution

Grace is the revolution Grace is stepping into the unknown Grace is willingness to fail Grace is being open to hearing how you have hurt others and changing your response to life instead of using defensiveness to cope Grace is knowing that something bigger than you is giving you strength Grace is knowing you have…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Justice

I feel greedy. I feel covetous. I feel hungry. I desire equality. I desire change. I desire collaboration. I feel passionate. I feel fury. I feel obsessive. I crave a voice. I crave a choice. I crave acknowledgement. I do not want women to be hung for their decisions like this man does. I do…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Being an imperfect activist sucks

I am deeply committed to working for justice in an authentic and charitable way. This means I am going to fuck shit up a lot in the eyes of other people. If speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we have, why do I feel like lately my truth isn’t good enough? If it…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Not looking back

The patriarchy manifests itself as a shitty list of shoulds…as uncertainty with our partners when we speak our truth. It tells us to be quiet…to stop taking up space. The patriarchy says demure…be quiet…HUSHHHHHHHHH. Don’t yell…smile. Don’t question what is happening…nothing is wrong. I am guessing that like me, you have been getting a whole…

10 Things I Wouldn’t Have Done if I Stayed Afraid of CRITICISM!

10. Built a BOMB ASS following online! That has led to connections with: Magical Feminists Kick Ass Academics Gorgeous friendships Glorious politicians 9. Pursued and obtained a PhD! I had mediocre grades, nearly failed statistics, and was told that my work was irrelevant. 8. Gone to a therapist! I was going through post-divorce insanity back…

Cleavage backed up with facts – Dr. Melissa Bird, PhD

Last night I broke my cardinal rule. I picked a fight with a total stranger on Facebook. It made me cry all night and all morning. It took me all the way until this afternoon to gather my wits and apologize publicly, which I did. Yes, the impenetrable Dr. Bird has a heart and cries…a…

#GOPTaxScam #EffSh*tUpFriday

My husband is a veteran. He and I are gun owning Democrats who believe deeply in American government. We attend church with our kids on most Sundays and he is using his GI Bill to finish his college education. I did what my grandparents taught me to do and worked hard to get where I…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Gratitude for the Activists

I am grateful for activists. I receive lots of really incredible emails on a pretty regular basis. This week I received some remarkable messages that I think are pretty great. One was from a student of mine who read the chapter about “substance use” in our textbook and took exception with the language used. He…

Monday Mayhem – Invitation to Risk

I have a tattoo on my back that says “forward out of darkness, forward into light”. I got it after Utah state legislator LaVar Christensen killed the first bill I ever wrote in 2004. It is part of the motto the suffragettes sewed on their banners when they marched for the 19th Amendment. My tattoo…

Writing While Female

This week @JW4Hillary posted on Twitter that Hillary Clinton was, “guilty of writing while female”. The Internets have BLOWN UP because a WOMAN has written a book about her experience running for President. The BROS have their knickers in a twist and I am mad as hell about it. All this bitching about Hillary Clinton…