Monday Mayhem – Tell Women Nice Things

Last week I had 2 different people say nice things to me within the span of 30 minutes. One friend texted me to say, “so fucking proud of you”. The other friend texted that I was his, “friend warrior queen”. The joy I felt in that moment was so GIANT in my heart that it…

Corvallis Still We Rise Women’s March

I was so blessed and honored to speak at the Corvallis Women’s March today in Corvallis, Oregon. The organizers SLAYED the event! Here is a video of my speech along with the transcript so you can follow my words! Have a kick ass weekend y’all! Cheers, Dr. Bird   Dr. Melissa Bird speech 1/20/18: A…

Roadblocks, justice, and finding your calling – Monday Mayhem

When we engage in advocacy and speak our truth, sometimes we hit a major roadblock. Mine is my “good girl”. She is an expert at saying, “shhhhhh, be quiet, sit down and shut up before someone sees you.” Feeding into this mindset can stop us from taking action. When women engage in advocacy and speak…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Being an imperfect activist sucks

I am deeply committed to working for justice in an authentic and charitable way. This means I am going to fuck shit up a lot in the eyes of other people. If speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we have, why do I feel like lately my truth isn’t good enough? If it…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Not looking back

The patriarchy manifests itself as a shitty list of shoulds…as uncertainty with our partners when we speak our truth. It tells us to be quiet…to stop taking up space. The patriarchy says demure…be quiet…HUSHHHHHHHHH. Don’t yell…smile. Don’t question what is happening…nothing is wrong. I am guessing that like me, you have been getting a whole…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – A recap of 12/12/17

12/12/17 was a historic day in Portland, Oregon. I got to meet one of my heroes Hillary Clinton…again. I met her 10 years ago during her first run for President and a few times since, but this time I got to talk to her and it was AWESOME! These are the top 10 things I…

10 Things I Wouldn’t Have Done if I Stayed Afraid of CRITICISM!

10. Built a BOMB ASS following online! That has led to connections with: Magical Feminists Kick Ass Academics Gorgeous friendships Glorious politicians 9. Pursued and obtained a PhD! I had mediocre grades, nearly failed statistics, and was told that my work was irrelevant. 8. Gone to a therapist! I was going through post-divorce insanity back…

Cleavage backed up with facts – Dr. Melissa Bird, PhD

Last night I broke my cardinal rule. I picked a fight with a total stranger on Facebook. It made me cry all night and all morning. It took me all the way until this afternoon to gather my wits and apologize publicly, which I did. Yes, the impenetrable Dr. Bird has a heart and cries…a…

#GOPTaxScam #EffSh*tUpFriday

My husband is a veteran. He and I are gun owning Democrats who believe deeply in American government. We attend church with our kids on most Sundays and he is using his GI Bill to finish his college education. I did what my grandparents taught me to do and worked hard to get where I…

Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Gratitude for the Activists

I am grateful for activists. I receive lots of really incredible emails on a pretty regular basis. This week I received some remarkable messages that I think are pretty great. One was from a student of mine who read the chapter about “substance use” in our textbook and took exception with the language used. He…

Monday Mayhem – Invitation to Risk

I have a tattoo on my back that says “forward out of darkness, forward into light”. I got it after Utah state legislator LaVar Christensen killed the first bill I ever wrote in 2004. It is part of the motto the suffragettes sewed on their banners when they marched for the 19th Amendment. My tattoo…

Eff Sh*t Up – Not Ready to Make Nice

Ohhhh y’all, 2017 is proving to be the year that the women stopped giving all the fucks. This weeks elections turned out to be a real doosey and proved the #resistance is alive and well, and it has NOTHING to do with old white guys and the status quo. Let’s just talk about this for…